If We're Honest About Physical Attraction

We did an online poll for my visit with on-air personalities Woody & Jim today on 107.5 The River in Nashville. The question was, “Which is most important to you?” The choices were: 1) your mate takes care of his/her body and keeps looking good, 2) your mate fulfills your sexual desires but lets his/her body go, or 3) your mate trips and falls under a bus. (The last one was there because Woody and Jim are hilarious…)

Votes?

60% choose number one — the attractive mate

33% chose number two — sexual desires fulfilled

7% chose number three — mate under a bus (hopefully they were kidding)

The numbers aren’t surprising. For years I’ve taught sessions to those who work with marriages and discussed with them the role physical appearance plays in marital satisfaction.

In the counseling world one of the “secrets” that typically doesn’t get talked about in public is the number of husbands who love their wives but are no longer sexually attracted to them because they are overweight.

Talking about that on TV or radio tends to rile listeners who feel that it is prejudiced toward people who struggle with weight. I certainly don’t want to offend, but the truth is — whether we like it or not — physical appearance matters from the time we first meet until we die.

As I employ the word appearance, I must broaden that to include all five senses. In a survey I did a couple years ago, the greatest physical deterrent to a wife’s being attracted sexually to her husband was hygiene. They were turned off by cigarette or cigar breath, unshaven faces over the weekend, coming home dirty and doing nothing about it, or, (dare I say it) certain smells that the human body sometimes makes. In short, women were just as concerned about the man’s physicality as were the men about the women’s.

So what do we learn from all this?

It is never okay to let yourself go. Thinking, “Well, we’re married now and I don’t have to watch the calories as much, or worry about exercizing as often” is not wise. Though our appearance changes with age, the truth is that we should be as physically attractive as possible for our mates as long as we both live. Why wouldn't we want to do that for the one we vowed to love and cherish?

So what do you do if you're not physically attracted to your spouse? We'll use weight as an example.

First, assure your spouse several times every day that you love him just as he is and that you are committed to be with him for life (this, of course, applies to husband or wife).

Second, open your heart and explain how you feel about his weight or whatever the physical issue is that can be improved. Be honest about all your emotions.

Third, ask him if he will commit to diet and exercise for you as well as for his own well being. Help in every way that he will allow. Encourage him to seek reputable professional guidance.

If you work on this together, with honesty and openness, you will bring attraction back into your marriage.

Are you in a DINS Marriage?

The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.

As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree that the pressures of a fast life and hectic days (and nights) can contribute to the reduction in the frequency and quality of sex in couples who live together, whether married or not.

But is it only the fact that both partners work that reduces the frequency of sex in couples?

I believe this is a very complex situation that is not created uniquely by one factor, but a series of them. Possibly the most important one has to do with the nature and change in desire throughout the life of a romantic relationship. A the beginning, sexual attraction and desire for one another are very strong, as two partners get to know each other and testosterone levels are high for both men and women. As the couple settles in a routine and partners become more familiar with one another, attachment develops, while desire decreases. There is a paradox here that all couples have to negotiate, as attachment comes with what feels safe and familiar, and sexual desire with the new and exotic. It is thus a tight balance that needs to be maintained.

Having said this, however, the changes in sexual activities we see today with some couples, particularly those with young children, seem to be more drastic than the progressive waning of desire that comes with familiarity and growing attachment for one another.

Today most couples complain of being chronically tired. They are exhausted by the fast pace of their lives. They often complain of not having any time for themselves – or for each other. They feel they need to be good parents; they need to be good employees; they often have to drive long distances from work to home or to their children’s activities and sports events. At times they have to commute, being with the family only for a very short time each week. A lot of them don’t have extended families that help them with child care and other activities. No wonder they don’t think about sex! This may be the last thing on their minds, or the thing they are willing to give up because, on their list of priorities, it is not at the very top.

I would also add that it is not only sex that has disappeared, but time together, regular date nights, times of sitting down together and discuss the day, check with one another, hold hands, give each other a back rub or foot massage, enjoy each other’s company. When all this goes, it becomes more difficult to engage in sex, as couples feel disconnected and emotionally unengaged and cannot easily switch on at will. Or, one partner wants to do it, but the other doesn’t. This leads to tension, feelings of rejection, anxieties and fears, and all this keeps partners further apart from each other

The relationship with our partners, like all relationships, needs to be nurtured and attended to. When we push it on the back burner and leave it there, it will wilt and eventually die. So, we need to make it a priority, investing time, energy and interest in order to keep it exciting and vibrant. Can you think now of a kind way of letting your partner know how important he or she is in your life?

When Emotional intimacy and Sexuality Marry

When Emotional Intimacy and Sensuality Marry

Masculine Polarity Meets Feminine Polarity

Oftentimes, people have both emotional intimacy (a feeling of love), and sensuality (a feeling of sexy charge), at the beginning of a relationship but then, it fizzles out as time goes by. Why is that? The biologist in me could drone on about the change in hormones levels of dopa – the one that gives you a drug-like charge as part of the evolutionary drive to reproduce – to oxytocin – the one that helps you to feel cuddly and bonded. But it’s not that simple. We could just excuse it away as “oh, that’s just how our bodies work, just accept it and settle”. Let’s not do that though. Let’s not settle!

We need to understand a bit about how our bodies work -emotionally, bio-chemically, and energetically in order to solve the problem. There is so much information out there on the topic that most people are unaware of.

A big part of the problem stems from lack of education. Our culture pushes the glamor of sex at every turn but has an underlying puritan aversion to giving out honest details on sex and how our bodies work. We are expected to be experts at sex as soon as we hit maturity – without any training or basic information. This sets up a lot of unconscious stress from the get-go.

So, I’m here to give you some straightforward information:
First- let’s look at ways people can do relationship-

* You can have High emotional intimacy with No sexual charge (also called ‘polarity’) = Love with no passion (This is either platonic friendship or what some romantic relationships become – then it’s boring.)

* You can have No emotional intimacy with High sexual charge = lust (which can be fun for a while, right? But, as we all know, if there isn’t an emotional connection, it won’t usually last for years. In this scenario, you can even dislike someone emotionally but be sexually drawn to them.)

* You can have High emotional intimacy and High sexual charge = Passionate love

* You can be somewhere in between these scenarios, because it’s on a scale.

To summarize:

* High emotional intimacy + No sexual charge = Platonic Love/ Passionless Love
* No emotional intimacy + High sexual charge = Lust
* High emotional intimacy + High sexual charge = Passionate love

Since today’s blog is focused on how to maintain High emotional intimacy and High sexual charge = Passionate love,

we’re going to now discuss how to create a higher sexual charge for people in intimate relationships.

(Note – In writing, I use hetero-sexual language in describing couples – however – this process works for same-sex couples or bi-couples too. When I use the terms ‘masculine polarity’ and ‘feminine polarity’ – it doesn’t necessarily have to be a male that is the masculine polarity and a female that is the feminine polarity. But, one person in the couple needs to run the masculine polarity and the other needs to run the feminine polarity for there to be a charge. Everyone has a preferred polarity, find out what yours is. More below.)

You are a battery

Sexual charge in a physical body is a bio-energetic process that you can adjust. To clarify this concept, think of how a simple battery with a positive pole and a negative pole works. Let’s do a simple review of how a battery works:
How a Battery Works

A battery is basically a container full of chemicals that produces negatively-charged elements called electrons, and this process of moving electrons creates power. If you look at any battery, you’ll notice that it has two poles or terminals. One pole is marked (+), or positive, while the other is marked (-), or negative. As an example, look at D cell batteries – the ones used in your flashlight – the ends of the battery are the terminals. In a car battery, there are two heavy lead posts that act as the poles.

Electrons collect on the negative pole of the battery. If you connect a wire between the negative and positive terminals, the electrons will flow from the negative to the positive pole as fast as they can (and wear out the battery very quickly — this also tends to be dangerous, especially with large batteries, so don’t try this with a real battery at home). Normally, you connect some type of ‘load’ to the battery using the wire – for example, a light bulb – then the battery’s energy flow is used constructively to light the bulb or run your car.

­Inside the battery itself, a chemical reaction produces the electrons. Electrons flow from the battery into a wire, and must travel from the negative to the positive pole for the chemical reaction to take place. That is why a battery can sit on a shelf for a year and still have plenty of power — unless electrons are flowing from the negative to the positive pole, the chemical reaction does not take place. This is where we use the analogy for men and women. There is a reason some people say the phrase ‘we didn’t have any chemistry‘ when they are dating. They may have an emotional connection, like common hobbies, but there is literally no charge between them. The chemical reaction did not take place. This is because there is no polarity. Sometimes people are ‘flat’. They need a highly charged masculine pole (just for science’s sake – call this the + end of the battery) and a highly charged feminine pole (the – pole) to build of a charge between them and ‘light’ up.

OK -How do we do that?

1. Masculine energy is about form, structure, and assertion. Feminine energy is about flow, being magnetic, a receiver. Practice these qualities in your daily life. Practice ‘Bouncing’ between them. Practice enhancing them to the nth degree. How would it feel to allow your self to just receive all day? How would it feel to be completely structured and planned all day? Which qualities do you prefer emanating? Since we are whole beings, yin and yang, we have both polarities within us. We have an innate preference to express one pole while being sexual though. The more we can feel the difference between what a masculine pole is and what a feminine pole is, the more we can have conscious control over choosing to amplify and express one pole during sex.

2. Spend some quality time apart – as individuals. When you become too ‘fused’ as a couple, you lose the ability to run charge – you lose your polarity. You need to know who you are as an individual in order to keep polarity as a couple.

3. Celebrate diversity as a couple – there is a reason that phrase ‘Opposites attract’ came into being. Practice being stereotypically ultra-feminine and ultra-masculine in the bedroom one day. Practice it as a game – not as a rigid role you have to play all the time. Remember wholeness is to have options – to know what the receptive pole feels like and what the assertive pole feels like. You choose polarity for your own pleasure.

Here’s a game to play together to illustrate this in a kinesthetic way:

* Get two magnets. Face the South (like) poles towards one another. What happens? They repel each other. Face the opposite poles towards one another. What happens? They attract – they forcefully pull.

4. Start thinking of the person as your lover, not your best friend.

5. Just for men – to be more in the masculine polarity:

* Practice standing as if you were a mountain – feet slightly apart – toes pointing straight ahead – head and spine straight but not rigid. Feel the solidity in your body – how does that feel?
* Spend some time doing ‘masculine’ hobbies – this can be anything, but something to you that feels more masculine. There is a reason those men’s retreats and ‘warrior weekends’ are so popular.
* Spend time doing things that bring you more into your physical body (-we tend to avoid the body in this culture with watching tv and the computer-) . This may sound crazy, but spend 1/2 hour chopping some wood. Notice how you feel.

6. Just for women- to be more in the feminine polarity:

* I’ve made a recording just for you! (Click : http://www.thetemplepriestess.com/events/meet-barbara/ and press the play button on the audio player.)

Blessings to you all! I’d love to hear how this information has helped you.

Guide To Dealing With A Cheating Husband! Forgiveness And Improvements!

Want a quick tip on how to survive an affair? Then this article will hopefully be of some help to you. When an affair has caused your marriage to fall apart you need to examine who now has the power to decide whether this marriage will work or not. And in most cases the power resides in your hand, but then naturally you can't simply move on with your life in this marriage knowing that your partner has committed an affair.

So we know that it's very devastating and painful to realize that your marriage didn't turn out to be what you thought it was. The sheer amount of shock and resentment can easily drive your whole marriage into ruin. This doesn't have to be the case if you choose it not to be.

As you read this post you will have a renewed idea of how to move on forward with your marriage by examining some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing as a direct result of your partner cheating and what the idea of forgiveness can mean to you.

So what does an apology mean to you when the act of cheating is so painful and devastating that it leaves your mind filled with fear, resentment, disgust, anxiety and not knowing whether you should trust them ever again? The first slat in the bridge towards forgiveness is receiving an apology from your partner, and they rightfully owe an apology. Period.

Unfortunately some victims of an affair may never hear an apology from their spouse, and if you haven't received one yet there may be a certain feeling inside of you that's forcing you to hold everything back and stopping you from moving on. You may feel that you're unable to move forward because you're still waiting for your cheating spouse to come out and admit his/her guilt and responsibility. In other words, you have the feeling and the need to be recognized as the victim.

In truth everyone wishes that it was that easy to escape from that painful memory, as you're constantly replaying those horrible images in your head. You may wonder if hearing the word "I'm sorry" from your spouse would mean anything, after what has been done.

The simple truth is that all your efforts to get attention and seeking ways to get your feelings across to your partner is your way of putting forward that you are the victim and you have been hurt through this ordeal. For most people who are victims of an affair, there is a constant need for them to play the role of the victim at all times, and thus they're unable to move past this point.

So once it has been established that you're partner realized that they have caused you pain, which may come in the form of them saying "sorry" you need to gauge whether this is enough and then quickly move on towards the healing process. The problem that most people have is that they need the constant validation of their pain, and they will constantly feed that feeling of pain through seeking some form of recognition that they're the victim.

Now, I'm not saying that you should forget about the amount of pain, anger and anxiety that the affair has caused you, neither am I saying that you're not the victim in this instance. Too many people have the misconception that forgiveness equates to forgetting and in fact this is not the case, as you can probably never forget what has happened, but you can still forgive and move forward in your relationship where the past can be a huge motivation for improvement.


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Tap into the Magic of Making Up

“There's nothing better than make-up sex,” Joe's friends tell him. Joe and his wife, Elizabeth, had a huge argument a couple of days ago.

He wasn't completely honest about where he'd been and she found out. She became jealous after discovering Joe's lie and accused him of cheating. Joe pointed out that this is exactly why he lied about meeting a female business associate for lunch-- because Elizabeth gets jealous so easily.

He defended that he was just trying to avoid causing Elizabeth worry and was also trying to prevent a big blow up like this one.

The whole thing ended with Elizabeth throwing Joe out of the house...at least for a couple of days while she clears her head. It's been a couple of days since their argument. Joe called Elizabeth and she agreed that he could come home so that they can talk.

Joe is nervous. He knows from past experience that making up after a fight can, at least temporarily, bring them closer together and-- to agree with his friend-- he and Elizabeth do tend to make love more passionately just after they've made up.

However, Joe doesn't know how many more big blow ups their marriage can handle. He wants to make up with Elizabeth in a way that will last and also to figure out how to be close and passionate with one another without having to fight first.

There can be real magic in making up after an argument or disagreement.

You may have experienced this in your own love relationship or marriage. When you and your partner offer and hear heart-felt, sincere apologies, the closeness is keenly felt. It is delicious to feel that re-connection between you and your love after some kind of resolution has been reached.

The real magic, however, is not so much in the “make up” sex or the tender hugs and loving words. The magic is in a reconciliation that helps you, your partner and your relationship actually grow.

It can mean the difference between truly moving closer together as a couple and only temporarily calling a truce on those relationship dynamics that tear you two apart.

Here are some of the potential benefits of making up and how you can open up to them...

A deeper understanding of yourself.
As you think back to the events that led up to the disconnection, disagreement or blow up that happened between you and your partner, you have an opportunity.

You can fixate on everything that your mate did that was “wrong,” “out of line” or “hurtful” or you can acknowledge what you BOTH did.

Let us be clear here...

We're not saying that the fact that your partner lied, put you down, cheated or whatever it is that he or she said or did was okay and that you need to forget about it. What we are encouraging you to do is to be aware of what you did too.

Try to gain a deeper understanding of why you acted or reacted in the ways that you did to the situation. What were you feeling and what were the beliefs that drove you to make the choices you did in the situation?

Try to set aside your judgment about who was “right” and who was “wrong.” Instead, focus in on what motivated you and what your past and current needs are.

It could be that you need more attention, respect, a feeling of connection, information or some form of support. Identify what your specific needs are and how they may have played a role in your choices to act and react in the ways that you did (and possibly continue to do).

The dissolving of relationship walls.
By knowing your needs and better understanding your motivations, you can acknowledge to your partner your share in what happened. When either (and hopefully both) of you own your role in the disconnecting dynamic, the walls and distance between you can dissolve.

The trick here is to take responsibility for your share of the dynamic with honesty and integrity. Don't try to assume “blame” for everything that happened. At the same time, resist the urge to point out all of your partner's habits that seem to you to have led to the situation or argument.

When one or both of you feel attacked and defensive, more walls come up. In much in the same way, when one or both of you are guilt-ridden and trying to assume sole blame, walls and resentment can also form.

None of this will help you and your partner move closer together and reconcile in the way that you want to.

If you feel like your mate is not taking responsibility for his or her share of what happened, be honest about that. You could talk about how you felt when your partner said or did __________ as a way to express your emotions about the choices that your partner made.

“I feel” statements are an effective way to be honest about your experience of what happened (and is possibly still happening) without pushing your version of the story on your mate.

As you and your partner stay in tune with yourselves and speak about what is true for each of you and also express your needs, you can have a sharing and listening breakthrough. You can both feel heard and better understood. You can both feel like your perspective is respected, even if it is different.

This kind of making up requires awareness, patience and persistence. The more you practice communicating in this way, however, the more you will feel the real magic that is possible in a close, connected relationship.


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How to trust your partner?

Do you trust your partner? How to deal with trust issues in a relationship? How to trust your partner?

Lack of trust or what some call doubt is a mental illness that affects many relationships negatively. Lack of trust is a huge problem that can ruin the relationship. Lack of trust could lead you to start checking your loved ones mobile, purses, cars, clothes, watching them, and stalking them among other things.

As I stated in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” lack of trust makes you live in fear, worry, and distress. It also could lead you to depression among other mental problems. If you suffer from this illness, which is called lack of trust, then you need to learn how to overcome it, otherwise, it will ruin your relationship with your partner.

If your goal is to learn how to build trust in a relationship, follow the below steps:

1. When you begin to doubt your partner, stop right away and switch the thought to a positive one. Stopping the thought as soon as it starts is one of the most effective ways you can do to overcome lack of trust in a relationship.

2. If you have witnessed something that makes you doubt your partner, then talk to your partner about it in a calm way. Communication is the key.

3. If you have seen your parents deal with a lack of trust issue, then it is better to start working on healing yourself, work with a counselor or a life coach. Research shows that many people who lack trust in their relationship do so because they learned to doubt their partners from seeing their parents not trusting each other. Therefore, to build trust in a relationship, you need to start healing yourself and changing your mental habits.

4. Learn to be sincere and truthful. If you have a lack of trust problem now and you have lost the trust from your partner, then don’t worry. You can regain the trust from your partner in a few months if you are willing to overcome your lack of trust issues and doubts, you just have to be sincere and truthful.

5. Learn visualization as it is one of the best ways to relax you and will help you get rid of lack of trust issues. When you are relaxed, you can start to visualize yourself that you and your partner trust each other, understand each other, and love each other. Remember, visualization helps you to program your subconscious mind with what you want to achieve.

6. To build trust in a relationship, you have to build your self confidence. Many people’s lack of trust issues stem for lack of confidence. For example, Jennifer mentions that every time her partner, John talks to a woman, she gets jealous and starts having some doubts. She starts asking questions such as “Does he love me?” “Does he find me attractive?” “Why is he talking to her?” “Why is he late?”

If Jennifer is confident in herself, she would know that her partner John is loyal to her and that he loves her and finds her attractive. She wouldn’t be sensitive to every move that her partner makes. She wouldn’t think negative thoughts as the above questions usually stem for lack of confidence.

Always remember the famous proverb by Lao Tzu, “He who does not trust enough, will not be trusted.”


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How to Survive a Sudden Breakup

One minute you feel like you are on top of the world. You have a great relationship with someone that may just be “the one.” You get along great, the relationship is progressing nicely, you get along with each other’s friends and family and then, it all comes to a screeching halt. Just as quickly as it began (maybe even quicker), the relationship is over. If this has happened to you, you realize how difficult it can be to survive a sudden breakup; however, it is not impossible.

Realize that you are going to hurt. There is simply no magical way to make the pain disappear, or to wake up and feel great about what has happened. Especially if the relationship was a long one, the sudden absence of it can feel like a hole in your life. Remember that these feelings are normal. Rather than bottling them up, or trying to ignore them, let them out. Talk with a close friend, write in a journal, cry, whatever it takes to cope with these feelings. Remember, that while these feelings will gradually subside, it is going to take time. Whatever you do, do not turn to a “quick fix” to make the pain go away. Alcohol, drugs, or other similar options, will not actually take the pain away. They will, in fact, only add to it.

It is important to be realistic about the breakup. It is very easy, especially if you were not the one who ended it, to hold out false hope of resuming the relationship. Unfortunately, this can actually prevent you from dealing with your feelings, and serve to extend the pain even longer.

While there may have been a good reason why the relationship ended, such as a fundamental incompatibility, there is also the very real possibility that you may never know the real reason why the relationship ended. It may have been something with the other person that you may never really figure out, because he or she never disclosed that information to you. Do not waste countless hours trying to understand the “why” of the situation.

It is important to keep yourself busy, active and socializing with other people. It is only natural to want to be alone, especially in the immediate aftermath. However, it is important to remember that you need interaction with other people. You need to keep yourself occupied and positive. Sitting at home staring at photos is not going to help you do that.

There is no denying that a sudden breakup can be devastating. Like many things in life, however, the effects can be temporary is you do not dwell on the situation.

Brooke Alexandria offers relationship advice for men and women of all ages, and in all stages of life. Regardless of if you are newly single, a dating veteran or married, you'll surely find useful tips to help you find love, navigate through your relationship and build stronger, long-lasting relationships. Follow Brooke on her journey through relationships at http://truth-about-relationships.blogspot.com.

How to Handle a Partner With a Wandering Eye

Relationships are built on trust, but it can be very difficult to trust your partner if he or she has a frequently wandering eye. However, if your partner has a wandering eye, your relationship is not necessarily doomed. There are ways you can remedy the situation.

It is important to realize that, as humans, we are hard-wired to notice things of beauty, regardless of whether it is something in nature, a work of art or an attractive human being. There is no harm in an occasional glance, but if your partner gawks at other people he or she finds attractive, actually comments about others’ appearances or actually flirts with other people he or she finds attractive, these actions are disrespectful to you and your relationship. These behaviors can potentially leave the partner without the wandering eye feeling unappreciated, threatened and insecure—a recipe for disaster.

It is vital to objectively determine whether your partner is simply, and harmlessly, noticing an attractive person, or whether they truly have a wandering eye, and perhaps are even lusting after another person. If your partner does have a wandering eye, it is important to remember that this is not a problem with you, it is a problem with your partner. No matter how attractive or good-looking you may be, if a person has a wandering eye, they will continue to look at other individuals. Therefore, keeping one’s self-esteem is critical.

If your partner’s eye wanders, it is extremely important to address the issue head-on. In a calm manner, communicate your feelings to your partner. Let them know how their wandering eye is affecting you. Allow for the possibility that your partner may not realize the extent of the problem, or realize that there is a problem at all. Expressing this in a calm manner can lay the groundwork for you to work on this problem as a couple. Once your partner is aware of this, remember that he or she may still require occasional reminders.

If your partner fails to recognize the seriousness of the issue and you are not already married, you should proceed with caution, as this could lead to more serious problems down the road.
If you are already married, you and your spouse may require qualified, third-party help to properly address this issue.

Brooke Alexandria offers relationship advice for men and women of all ages, and in all stages of life. Regardless of if you are newly single, a dating veteran or married, you'll surely find useful tips to help you find love, navigate through your relationship and build stronger, long-lasting relationships. Follow Brooke on her journey through relationships at http://truth-about-relationships.blogspot.com.

How to Keep Your Man Interested in the Relationship

Do you find it hard to keep the relationship with your man and afraid that you are losing the connection with him? Keeping a relationship is hard but if you really love your man, it is important to put an effort to find out what do men want and how to keep your man interested.

Love him. Of course one sure way to keep your man interested is to love him. Let him know that you love him by your words and actions. Make him feel loved but do not over do it. You may scare him away if you appear too needy. Love him and let him love you too in return. Do not tell him what to do and do not expect too much. Men want to feel loved and want the freedom to express the love he has for you.

Give your man some air to breathe. Although you want to know everything about you man or you want to tag along with him all the time, be reasonable and give him his space. While staying in a relationship, they need some freedom from time to time to do the things they want to do, of course, without putting your relationship in trouble. You do not want to suffocate him and to get tired of you. This way you can keep your man interested in the relationship.


Do not annoy him or check on him all the time. He needs your trust letting him to do what he wants and need to do. Calling him all the time at work or monitoring his every move will make him feel bad. Like you, he is a grown human being that needs respect. He also needs privacy once in a while. You cannot keep your man interested just by stalking him or calling him all the time.

Do your own thing. While it is important that couples do things together, there are situations that you have to do things on your own. Do not expect that he will accompany you in everything that you want to do. You can ask him but you cannot force him to be with you all the time. There are things that women enjoy but men don´t and you have to respect that if you want to keep your man interested in you.

Although you are both in a relationship, you are two individuals who need respect. Respect him as the way you want to be respected.

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