How to Be More Attractive to Men - Ladies It's Time to Loosen Up and Get Your Mo-Jo Back!

If you are a lovely lady stuck at home on Saturday night wondering where all the decent men have gone, you may be just a few steps from meeting Mr Wonderful!

Ladies are always looking for ideas on how to be more attractive to men. However sometimes it's the simple things in life that make all the difference. So forget about all the books out there and pay attention to a few key points: self confidence, presentation, originality and soul.

Self confidence is probably an obvious one to you, but did you know that it also refers to the ability to love and respect one's self? So start from the inside out and learn to really value yourself. You're a great person!

Once you're all loved up it's time to be more attractive and look great! Presentation will always catch a man's attention. Now there's no need to expose a lot of flesh or feel uncomfortable, just keep a few style tips in mind. Wear what suits your shape, choose colors that flatter your skin tone, wear darker clothes on your larger body parts, accessorize areas that you would like to draw attention to, and finally always have great body posture. These all will take years off your age and make you appear far more composed and self assured.

Originality goes hand in hand with loving and being true to yourself but having soul is an added dimension.

To have soul you need to be alive, focused in the moment and genuine. Always see the best in yourself and others, express gratitude for what you have in your life, and be like a playful inquisitive child! Now go and release your Mo-Jo and let your energy draw him in.

The Reason that we need to Forgive

Learning to forgive others is something which I wrestled with for quite a long time. I was the type person who would hold a grudge for years if I had to, and my favorite saying was: “I’ll get even if it takes a thousand years.” This attitude didn’t help me at all except that I thought it helped me to maintain some sort of personal sense of justice. The negative emotions which I carried around with me affected my overall attitude and made me a person that others didn’t desire to be associated with. My conversation was always about some imagined or real injustice which someone had committed on me. To be perfectly honest people just didn’t want to hear it.

The bible says that if you don’t forgive others God won’t forgive you. I really believe that the reason that he won’t forgive you is that whenever he comes close to you he smells the garbage that you are holding in the form of negative emotions and he can’t stand to hang around the stink.

Whoever is right or wrong is not the point when it comes to learning to forgive. Whatever was done is done and unless you can turn back the hands of time there is absolutely nothing that you can do to erase it. So the bottom line is that you just have to deal with it and move on. It is what it is so deal with it.

Holding on to negative emotions serve to hinder you and keep you from reaching your true potential. The negative emotions are like weights to a sprinter. They don’t help at all. You need to drop the weights so that you can pick up speed. Don’t allow these things to stop you. Don’t allow betrayal or hurt to overcome you. Your attention needs to be on the goals that you want to achieve not old problems which have nothing to do with anything. This thought makes me remember the famous Kentucky feud which had been going on for many, many years. When someone asked one of the combatants why they were fighting he couldn’t even remember what the fight was about or when it began. Old hurts are the same type of scenario. The person who hurt you has probably forgotten about it and is living their life. Why should it continue to bother you?

Remember that you are not the only person who has been wronged by others. I’ll bet you everything that I will ever have that there are people out there who have had far worse experiences than you and didn’t allow the situation to bother them so why should you?

Nothing can hurt you in life until you decide that you will allow it to. You are in control of your mind and you need to decide the terms of your life. Anger can’t take hold in your mind unless you allow it to have a space. Bitterness will have to keep moving unless you provide a campsite. You have the capability to be in control so you need to take control.

You may have to deal with one negative emotion at a time but you need to be honest and identify the place that you give to negative feelings before you can overcome them. One thing that I try to remember is to have an opposite reaction to the one that the bad situation attempts to dictate to you. If a bad situation makes you feel like crying you should try to laugh instead. I remember a stressful work situation which we were in when I was in the military. We were all tense when one of the Sergeants cracked the corniest jokes ever told. It worked because it made us all laugh and even though it didn’t change the reality it helped us to deal with it in a more relaxed manner. Riceland Enterprises

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Happiness is a Choice: 7 Ways To Feel Happy Right Now

Happiness isn't something that suddenly appears in our lives when we have everything we want; happiness is a choice we make in every moment. Sometimes it's just not possible to feel on top of the world; for example if we've just lost someone we love, nothing is going to make us feel happy right now. In those circumstances, probably all we can manage to do is accept how we feel and maybe find a little relief.

These tips are for the times when we wish we felt better and need a quick fix:

1.Appreciate what you have. Nothing new about “count your blessings” but that's because it really works! If you can, start as soon as you wake in the morning and just look around your room for reasons to feel better. Your comfortable bed, the shaft of sunlight coming through the curtains, the anticipation of the taste of that first cup of coffee – now keep going …

2.Do a little daydreaming. Imagine one perfect scenario and really live it for a couple of minutes – no more than that. This is something you can do almost anytime and it will put a smile on your face and give you a quick recharge when you feel yourself wilting.

3.Go outside or lean out of the window and look up at the sky. Even if it's grey and cloudy, it's still a magnificent and magical sight. I especially love a windy day, when the clouds scud across so quickly, with so much energy.

4.Go for a walk. Exercise of any kind is the absolute best way to get yourself out of a funk and a walk needs no special equipment (so no excuses). Even 10 minutes brisk walking with deep breathing will give you a whole new perspective.

5.Listen to the voice in your head. If the story it's telling is a negative one, then change it. Most of the time we're not even aware of the thoughts we have “by default”, but they churn away automatically and when we stop to listen to them it can be a big shock to realise just how negative they are. Make a point of tuning in maybe once an hour and making the conscious decision to focus on something happy or positive for a couple of minutes. After a few days of awareness, that inner voice will start to sound a bit more cheerful.

6.Look for the sparkle in every scene. I heard that phrase from a friend and it stuck with me because it's so evocative. Another way of saying it is look for the positive in everything, but “sparkle” is a word that makes me smile. You don't have to be a Pollyanna (although there's nothing wrong with that) but making a conscious choice to find at least one positive “sparkle” in every challenge will make it easier to find a solution.

7.Breathe, slowly and deeply. Breathe in for a slow count of four, hold it for two, breathe out completely for four. Nothing complicated, you're breathing anyway so why not make the most of it? Deep breathing makes you feel more energised, reduces stress and can even help you lose weight!

The above tips are simple, easy ways to deliberately lift your mood. The more you do them, the more effective they are. Pick one right now and put a smile on your face!
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Raise Your Self-Esteem, Six Behaviors That Give You a Boost

The importance of self-esteem is an unavoidable reality. All of us are impacted by our self-esteem, whether we recognize it or not. High self-esteem allows us to respect ourselves and makes it easier for others to respect us as well. When we feel good about ourselves we are more able to successfully handle life’s challenges. We will also be much more likely to enjoy the good times.

Almost everyone struggles with self-esteem some of the time. Even those who seem arrogant and overconfident are probably compensating for a bit of self-doubt. Then there are those for whom high self-esteem seems like an impossible dream. Since self-esteem is so important and affects every aspect of our life, how do we lift ourselves up?

One of the easiest ways to have high self-esteem is to have parents who have high self-esteem. Unfortunately many people have not had that luxury. But we are not doomed to stay stuck in low self-esteem. We each have a responsibility to first become aware of the state of our self-esteem and then, if we find ourselves wanting, we need to accept the responsibility to do what it takes to raise our self-esteem.

How can we tell if we have high self-esteem? There are six behaviors that tend to indicate high self-esteem. The fascinating thing is that if you have low self-esteem, behaving like you have high self-esteem can actually raise your self-esteem. There is something about disciplining yourself and practicing these six self-esteem behaviors that helps you to raise your self-esteem.

1. Wake Up in Your Life
Get to know yourself. Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings; get to know your preferences and opinions. Allow yourself to seek reality checks and be willing to see and correct mistakes. This means snapping out of autopilot and being present in your own life.

2. Accept Yourself
Accepting yourself does not mean pretending that you are perfect. You can accept yourself and still want to change something about yourself. The reality is that we can never change that which we resist. When you hate parts of yourself, you will find that you have given those parts incredible staying power. Self-acceptance is the foundation for growth.

3. Take Responsibility for You
You are responsible for those things that are within your control—your thoughts, your words, your action, your values, your happiness . . . You are not responsible for those thing outside your control. Stop waiting for someone to rescue you, to make you happy or whatever it is you are waiting for and be there for yourself.

4. Stand Up for You—Be Assertive
This is your life and if you sell yourself short to please others your self-esteem will suffer. Accept that your needs and wants are important. Muster the courage to stand up for what is important to you. Start small and work your way up.

5. Live Purposefully
Set and achieve goals. It is not the achievement that is important; what is important is that the process of achieving feels real good. These feelings of satisfaction will boost your self-esteem.

6. Strengthen Your Integrity
Say what you mean and mean what you say. If your behavior contradicts something that you value or believe, you let yourself down. Self-esteem is about what you think of yourself. Living with integrity or practicing what you preach helps you to raise your self-esteem.

The formula to raise your self-esteem is simple, but not easy. If these behaviors are not a natural part of your life, it will take some persistence and practice to include them. But adopting these behaviors will reward you in every aspect of your life. According to Nathaniel Branden, “To trust one’s mind and to know that one is worthy of happiness is the essence of self-esteem.”

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5 Ways to Develop a Positive Mental Attitude

A positive mental attitude is one of the most important assets you can posses. Not only do positive thoughts help to dissolve your stress but they also have a positive impact on your physical health as well. The importance of this state of mind can not be overlooked in how it affects our performance both socially and professionally. In fact your attitude is directly related to the degree of success you may experience in just about any endeavor. With all that said how can we can develop and maintain the proper mindset needed to perform at our best and enjoy optimal health as well?

Here are 5 behavioral habits you can practice and adapt to your lifestyle to help create the positive change you are looking for.

Create a Positive Environment

Become more aware of the way you think because this is what forms the foundation of your attitude. If you 'condition' yourself to always think in terms of positive thoughts your outward mood will reflect this. Do not wait for something good to happen to create this positive change for you but rather create the change by altering the way you think.


Do Not Give Up

Be realistic and understand that events or occurrences will NOT always go the way you expect or desire. One thing certain about life is it will present you set backs but it is up to you as to how you choose to deal with them. If you view these set backs as lessons to be learned you are more likely to reach your goal as opposed to giving up and walking away.

By quitting you now feel defeated and disappointed but by sticking to it success will be that much more gratifying. Count on set backs and plan on working through them when they occur!

Just Laugh

Find humor in whatever you can since laughter automatically puts a smile on your face and makes you feel good inside. There is no better way to break the tension or snap out of a 'funk' than by laughing.

Live in the Moment

Capture and relish the good and the beauty of every moment as it occurs and do not spoil it by worrying about yesterday or tomorrow. Yesterday is now the past and tomorrow has yet to occur so appreciate what it is you got in the present!


Expect Good Things

Learn to expect the best out of every situation with the understanding that you deserve good things. When you are thinking along these lines your mood is more upbeat as is your disposition. You are now more attractive to others due to the feelings you radiate. When you combine your positive outlook with that of others who think or feel the same way it dramatically increases your well-being and also your chances of success.

A positive mental attitude can give you the leverage you need to create and live a happy and rewarding life. Being able to avoid a continual build up of stress by maintaining positive thoughts helps improve our personal performance and also enjoy better health. It is not however always easy to put on the 'happy face.' Sometimes it is necessary to consciously take certain measures that will have a positive impact on your attitude. The 5 behavioral habits reviewed above, if practiced, can give you the positive change you need to produce and maintain a happy and productive mindset.

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