Friday, May 30, 2008

HOW TO USE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION: The 6 Steps to Manifestation - Step 1 of 6: Feel Good




Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past couple years there’s a really good chance you’ve been exposed to the Law of Attraction. While the concept is nothing new, the movie The Secret obviously brought it into the consciousness of the mainstream. As a teacher of the Law of Attraction for the past several years, I have noticed that while most people are interested in using the law to improve their lives, they need specific direction in terms of how to apply it into their lives. The intention of this series of articles is to teach you step-by-step, in simple and practical terms, exactly how to implement the Law of Attraction into your life so that you truly begin living a life full of love, happiness and abundance. All human beings are incredibly powerful and can create whatever reality they desire.

The attraction process as outlined here consists of 6 specific steps:
1.Feel good. This will be discussed in detail in this article.
2.Set forth your intention.
3.Take inspired action.
4.Release the how.
5.Be a YES to life.
6.Allow the intention to manifest. Let’s begin with feeling good.

Step 1:
FEEL GOOD!

I honestly cannot think of anything more important than feeling good. Call me an optimist but I believe that if each person on the planet was focused on feeling good on a consistent basis most of the challenges we currently face as a society and as a planet would quickly be solved. People who feel good don’t hurt other people. People who feel good don’t wage wars. People who feel good are typically not selfish and self-serving. People who feel good are more likely to be guided by love versus fear. So on a global level, the more good feeling, happy, loving people roaming the planet, the better. On a personal level, the better you feel the more powerful you will be in terms of your ability to attract and manifest your desires. Understanding the Law of Attraction is pretty simple. Consider that all manifestation begins with feelings. If you are feeling good you will attract what you want. If you are feeling bad you will attract what you do NOT want… period. Your state of being attracts everything to you.

You cannot attract wealth if you are feeling poor.
You cannot attract health if you are feeling sick.
You cannot attract love if you are feeling unworthy of it.
You cannot be happy if you are feeling undeserving of it.
You must see yourself as you want to BE and from that point of being, you will attract what you desire. So the key is to consciously choose to feel good and then just stay in the joy.

Unless you are one who just naturally feels good all the time (which makes you a very rare individual), there are some powerful tools you can use to cause you to consistently feel good. Let’s discuss three proven tools for you to consider:

The tool of GRATITUDE

When you consciously choose to live in a state of gratitude, you will automatically begin to feel good. It is not possible to think about the amazing things in your life and not feel good! By focusing on what is good, you will attract more good into your world. (Conversely, if you act like a victim and focus on what is bad, more bad will come flooding your way). It sounds so simple… because it is!

Try on this exercise for the next 30 days. Each morning, ideally as soon as you wake up, list out at least 10 things that you are grateful for. You can write the list down in a journal or on your computer, speak the list out loud, call a friend and share your list with them or scream it out loud on your morning walk. There is no wrong way to do this; the key is to just begin each day focused on what is working in your life. Focus on what you are grateful for. It does not matter how messed up you think your life might be, you still have plenty to be grateful for. The fact that you have the ability to read these words tells me you are doing okay. In fact, I’d bet there are millions of less fortunate people around the world who would change places with you in a second.

I have personally been doing this exercise every single day for over two years now. I type it up and e-mail it every day to my buddy Mike in Chicago and he sends me his in return. Why do it I do it? Because I know I have the option each morning to either be grateful for the new day or to whine and complain. And you know what? Gratitude feels a whole lot better than whining and complaining! Plus I understand the power of feeling good.

In fact, try it right now. List out 10 things you are grateful for. In case you need a little help to get started, consider things like: your body, your mind, your soul, your children, your spouse, your significant other, your lover, best friends, your home, your car, your pets, money in your bank account, your job, your business, your country, the weather, your mother-in-law, whatever…

Again, try it on for 30 days and just see what happens. Living in a state of gratitude is essential to successfully use the Law of Attraction.

The tool of MEDITATION

I cannot stress enough the importance of meditation. Whether you meditate to simply calm your mind and feel a little more peace or if you do it to make conscious contact with your source and experience complete, utter bliss, meditation is an important tool when it comes to feeling good.

There are obviously many forms of meditation to consider. I personally practice something called Shakipat meditation. Shakti is the life force energy that beats your heart and sustains the universe. In this simple third-eye meditation technique, you connect with that energy and feel an amazing natural high.

I personally sit for approximately 1 hour each day and quite honestly it is hard to express in words how this has impacted my life. I feel a great sense of calm, peace, love and joy in my life. I feel connected to the world and everyone and everything in it. I feel grateful to simply be alive. Most importantly, in this conversation of the Law of Attraction, I feel good!!

The tool of EXERCISE

Beyond the obvious health benefits of a good exercise routine, let’s be honest: exercising makes you feel good. Maybe not always while you are doing it, but when you are done you always feel better!

So if you are committed to feeling good each day, commit to some form of exercise each morning. You can walk, run, lift weights, do yoga, make love (that got your attention)… just do something each morning to get the blood pumping and create some energy. The more energy you have, the better you will feel. I recommend exercising outside if possible… breathe in the air… connect with nature… connect with the universe, God, or source (whatever name you give to the power that created this magnificent playground we get to play in).

While there are obviously many other tools you can utilize in your quest to feel good each day, I strongly advise you to incorporate these three into your routine. In fact, the best guidance I can offer is to create a powerful morning ritual (routine) which includes gratitude, meditation and exercise. Again, try it on for yourself and see how you feel.

My advice is to make feeling good your highest goal. Live in a state of gratitude and you will undoubtedly attract to you all you desire and experience a joyous life. When you feel good, everything just flows.


Rich German uses The Laws of Attraction to teach his students to success, prosperity and to feelings of love and happiness. He offers monday night meditations, teleseminars, ebooks, audio downloads and much more!

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Dump That Zero and Get a Hero! Overcoming the Temptations of the Single Girl


Do you know this guy or are you dating him? He’s hot, he’s charming, and he makes your skin tingle. When he touches you or kisses you, you turn into a big hormonal puddle. Anything he wants from you, you give, and usually that involves a hot night in the sheets. There’s just one problem: he has a huge fatal flaw that acts as an enormous block to a happy life together. He may feel like a soul mate, but he’s really your nemesis.


Who is he? He’s the Wounded Guy. You feel an adrenaline rush when you’re with him, but later, upon reflection, you see his love-killing flaw(s) - any one or a combination of the following:

  • He’s divorced and can’t even think about marriage again

  • He drinks too much and/or uses drugs, smokes too much pot, etc.

  • He struggles with career and money

  • He uses porn – strip clubs, internet porn, magazines, hookers

  • He’s unfocused – has no real goals, drifts in life, makes no plans

  • He’s insecure – can’t handle it when you go out with girlfriends, even though you’re loyal and true

  • He’s not divorced yet, though he talks about leaving his wife

  • He’s afraid of commitment – wants his “freedom” and wants you too

  • He’s a player – he’s dated more women than he can count, but wants you to think it will be “different” with you

  • He has a trail of broken relationships behind, with a long list of all the other women’s character flaws; reading between the lines, you see that he doesn’t treat women with dignity and respect or hold them in high regard


The Wounded Guy has baggage – lots of it. Everyone has emotional baggage, but there’s a difference between carry on luggage and steamer trunks! What separates the Wounded Guy from the rest is that he uses his past, his issues, and his challenges as a “free pass” on responsibility in life. His life history is one big “get out of jail free” card that he plays to avoid making a commitment to you or to avoid doing the right thing (i.e., get a job, get off of the substances, get a divorce, etc.).


The Wounded Guy is non-intentional about his life. Instead of embracing his challenges, taking responsibility and carving out a better life, he waffles, avoids, blames, and collapses. Instead of stepping up to the plate and loving you with all of his heart, he draws close to get his needs met, and then backs away when you need something. For you, he’s a zero, not a hero. He ultimately takes away rather than adding to your life.


What attracts you to the Wounded Guy? Why do so many smart women choose men who can’t or won’t love them, commit to them, and create a good life together? The answers – the temptations of the single girl – will set you free from this destructive dating trap. In a nutshell, you’re tempted by the wounded guy and you’re tempted by high risk relationships. You have a tendency to get sexual way too soon, and then rush into relationships without using your brain. You have sacrificed your authentic voice, denied your true desires, and taken the lead instead of taking your cues. All of these temptations, and more, are your downfall. Why? Because you didn’t know that succumbing to the temptations of the single girl would lead you down a path of self-destruction. No one taught us these things, not until now.


It’s never too late to choose a brand new, fulfilling path! You can, by taking stock, defining clearly what you want, including the kind of character you want in a man, and then using a powerful dating process that is guaranteed to produce the results you want.


Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid is a short, engaging modern day parable with life-changing lessons for dating and selecting your life partner. It’s the story of Kelly, a charming, pretty everywoman, whose dating foibles make it safe for you to see yourself and change. You’ll cringe at her choices, feel moved by her ah-ha moments, and cheer her triumphs over disastrous love relationships turned positive. Through Kelly’s story, you’ll re-define your path, and soon find yourself with a good guy who will be your loving soul partner – your hero - for life.

Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, is a licensed therapist with over twenty years experience, the published author of four self-books on relationships, and host of the hit website Singlescoach®. Nina’s blog on Singlescoach® is accessed by thousands of singles daily. Nina is one of the foremost authorities on the intricacies of dating and love relationships. She’s been featured in innumerable national magazines and newspapers, on radio hundreds of times, and on national and regional television. Nina’s newest book, Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid (Wheatmark, 2007), was just released to rave reviews.